Three life lessons I learnt from the DIY

August 1, 2020

Over the past two weeks I’ve been busy doing some DIY in the house and doing some major decluttering. I’ve been trying to be a mix of Marie Kondo, a decorator and a builder in one woman!

One of the most satisfying jobs so far has been revamping what’s going to become my new workspace for the foreseeable future. The first steps have been removing the wallpaper from the four walls of the room to prepare them for painting (See pic at the end).

It’s something I’ve never done before and because of that I was excited at the idea of learning something new. I find that significant lessons can come from trying something you’ve never tried before. Have you experienced the same sometimes?

So, I wanted to share with you the lessons these four walls have taught me so far.

Lesson n.1

Patience and perseverance will get you where you want to get.

As I moved from one wall to the next, I slowly realised how different the walls are from each other. One surface would make it easy for the wallpaper to come out. Once wet, the paper would peel out like a sheet of lasagna coming out of an Italian grandma’s pasta maker, nice and smooth!

The next surface instead would be making it very difficult for the paper to come out and it took me a lot of patience, loving care and much more water to scrape it out bit by bit.

As I kept going I found I was getting to know those walls better and better so that the job was becoming easier and easier. I was mastering the skill and I saw my confidence in completing the job successfully growing stronger and stronger after each bit.

I think this is very similar to what happens when we choose to do some inner work to get to know ourselves better or we’re going through major life changes. We might need to peel off layers of old ways, beliefs and situations that we know no longer serve us. This process can sometimes be painful and lengthy. Some tears might be needed too.

It takes patience and perseverance to achieve true change and create a more meaningful life. But as we grow in the knowledge of who we are and get more clarity on the change we want in our life, the journey becomes easier.

Lesson n.2

The journey is not always linear and smooth.

Back to the walls now. 

Once I scraped off all the wallpaper, it was time for sanding the walls, removing nails and filling into the gaps. Once again, the process of getting confident with the task started from scratch. Not without inconveniences though, as the sander I was using left me down at some stage and I had to continue manually for a while before getting a new one the next day. The nails on the walls wouldn’t give up and say farewell to the wall after being there for years too. 

Similar to what happens in life, the path towards change is not always linear and smooth. On the opposite, it might more often be bumpy and really test our patience and resilience. There might be obstacles to overcome, decisions to make, detours and adjustments to consider before we get the results we want to get. 

Lesson n.3

The hard work you put into your inner work is totally worth it!

Eventually, after layers of dust covering every inch of the room and my body, and hands covered in Polyfiller, I created a nice, neat, smooth surface ready to welcome a new paint. 

And an infinite choice of colours! Pure satisfaction!!

When we’re open to change and ready to get rid of the old to make space for the new, a whole range of possibilities becomes available for us. 

Life can become like a brand new wall, ready to welcome new colours and witness new stories.

Whatever is the change you’re hoping to make in your life right now, be patient and keep going. Ask for help if needed when the path gets bumpy, there’s some stubborn nail that still wants to stick to the wall and you feel like giving up. 

I promise you your hard work and perseverance will be repaid!

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Now, off to paint!! Talk to you very soon.


Cover Photo by Taelynn Christopher on Unsplash        

myself holing a sander

Written by Donatella Porceddu

I am a registered psychologist and life coach specialised in binge and emotional eating, body kindness, and mindful eating. I empower women to become the best version of themselves through my comprehensive approach, which combines personal coaching and psychology, leveraging my client’s strengths and building around their opportunities.

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Donatella Porceddu Psychologist & Eating Coach specialised in Binge Eating, Overeating, Emotional Eating, Food freedom, anti-diet approach. 1:1 support through my Make Peace with Food program.

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