“Rest, in its simplest form, becomes an act of resistance and a reclaiming of power because it asserts our most basic humanity. We are enough.”
― Tricia Hersey
I don’t know about you but for me autumn calls for more calm and reflection. And because those are very important values for me and this season alignes with them, it must be what makes this time of the year so special to me.
Despite all the noise out in the world, preparing for Christmas, I get to think about how I want to feel vs what I want to do.
In spite of all the distractions around me, work, goals and deadlines, a balance of how the year went, what’s achieved, what’s not; I’m invited to focus on being rather than doing.
See, I had big plans for the last three months of this year. A long list of ideas and things to do, all popping up in my mind during summer time.
However, I’m now at a point where I realise, I’ve just not being listening to what’s asking for attention, I’m not listening to my body request to slow down, to rest, instead of adding more to the list.
The signals are pretty clear. I often feel tired, even after waking up, and sleeping one hour more at the weekend doesn’t do the trick.
Meal times are a bit all over the place as I try to juggle between too many things.
I catch myself wishing I was doing something else while I am busy doing something I packed into an already busy day.
Right now, while I write this article, I get to reflect about what’s going on, what’s causing this.
It seems like for me it comes down to the pressure to feel like “I have accomplished something”. To some sort of belief whereby “to have accomplished something” equals “to have completed a lot of things”.
Yes, productivity often dictates my sense of worth.
I have the feeling I’m not the ony one with this.
How easier would it be to relax into knowing that no matter how the year has been so far, how much I feel I’ve achieved or failed, I can still enjoy this last part of the year without rushing through things? Without feelings like I’m “less than” for wanting to slow down, instead?
Slowing down and taking good care of myself, of what needs to be nurtured the most, would probably be the greatest act of self-campassion right now.
No rush, no competition, no comparison. Just me and the vision of care I have for myself, which I suppose is different from the one you are holding in your heart right now. Because we are all different and unique in our own little ways.
Two questions to start from can be:
- What’s the deepest need that calls for your attention and care right now?
- How can you be more on your side right now?
I’m also aware that taking good care of myself is possible only if I believe I’m worth of care and to be taken care of.
Well, this hasn’t always be the case, but over the past few years I’ve learnt that when it feels like I have no time for me or that I just don’t feel worthy of some good TLC, I can start from doing something.
Instead of waiting for that sense of worth to arise, I’ll feed into it but making more time to do the things which tell my mind and my body I’m worthy.
A couple of questions to help here can be:
- What would help me feel special?
- What would be really good right now?
Three ideas for you
I’ve got three suggestions based on what feels like I’m craving now myself. That means that they might not be relevant to you.
However I hope they serve as inspiration to look into what that could be for you.
Here we go.
1. Create special moments and memories.
It could be a special meal, visiting a magic place after sunset to enjoy the lights at night atmosphere.
I have promised myself these things below:
- Enjoy the Wonderlights at Malahide Castle. If you’re also interested, get in touch and we can finally meet up and go together!
- Cuddle up with my dog and a good book on the couch at weekends, instead of trying to catch up with more and more work.
- Gift myself with a relaxing massage (believe it or not it’s been now almost three years since I had a massage). Any recommendation are really appreciated here as I’m looking for a great, soothing experience.
- Spending an afternoon with friends at The Hole in the Wall soaking in some festive atmosphere. Have you any recommendation for other special places?!
- Doing some mindful stitching at night to wind down. I’ve never been good at stitching but this has turned out to be a relaxing moment for me and thanks to Cris from Yoga Simmering Impression for introducing me to it.
2. Write two pages to yourself every day from now until the end of the year (and continue if you like).
How about experiencing the freedom of writing freely on a blank page, whatever comes to your mind, with no agenda but trying to talk to yourself about what matters the most to you?
You know me, I’ve always vouched for the incredible power of writing, not to win a Pulizer price, but simply to establish a dialogue with yourself and youself only.
Try and let me know how it goes!
3. Sleep, nap, press snooze.
This one I’ve learnt especially from my dog and my father who rarely in his life has had a day without an extra nap, no matter if short of long.
More recently, I purchased a book from The Nap Ministry, after following her for a while on Instagram. It’s called Rest is Resistance.
The author, Tricia Hersey, really speaks to me when she makes this important point:
Our worth does not reside in how much we produce, especially not for a system that exploits and dehumanizes us.
Rest, in its simplest form, becomes an act of resistance and a reclaiming of power because it asserts our most basic humanity. We are enough.
Well, I’ve been willing to take more act of resistance of this kind lately. How about you?
How important and urgent is it to give yourself some rest?
Again, these an many more acts of care when initiated signal your brain that you matter, that you’re worth it.
What else would you add to this list?
Off to the couch now to read my new book on this Sunday afternoon.
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