Learning to sit with the emotions that cause your binges

January 23, 2021

Have a tea with your emotions

Ever thought about inviting your emotions for a tea?🍵

Maybe you’re mad at something your partner said, you’re under a lot of stress for a difficult project in work, or you are feeling frustrated after saying yes one more time to someone when you were feeling tired.

When you don’t know how to handle these situations, and the feelings that come from them, you might have learned to just focus on food. Bingeing and overeating have maybe helped you to find rest and they distracted you from the problems in your life that overwhelm you.

Eating not to feel what we are feeling.

If you’ve been on a binge, you are quite familiar with that state of oblivion it creates, where all the problems fade into the background, all the pain is blocked out, at list until the binge finishes.

Coping with life problems requires skills you might have not fully developed yet. So, those problems might look impossible for you to solve right now. How do you try to solve them? 👉You turn to food.

However, food is not the problem. Your longing for food can be a longing for emotional and spiritual nourishment, for self-expression, for being loved, considered, heard.

  • Food can become your companion when you feel lonely or empty.
  • It can be comforting and supporting when you’re feeling sad or inadequate.

When you start inviting your emotions for a tea, you create space and time to sit with those emotions just as they are and get familiar with them, until you befriend them.

You start to see you are starving. But the food you may need is not material.

A little practice for you to try.

Try to sit with your emotions the next time you feel the urge to eat when you are not physically hungry.

▪️Make a tea.

▪️Sit and check-in on how you’re feeling. If you feel like crying, let the tears flow.

▪️Reflect (use pen and paper✍️, if you like):

“This is not what I really want. What I really want is… . What I’m craving and longing for is.. .”

If you ‘d like to share your experience, send me a message and I’ll be happy to be invited for a tea with your emotions.

Enjoy your tea!🍵

With kindness,

Dona 🌷


Would you like sharing about this and other issues with like-minded women and doing some journaling together?

Why not joining The Mindful Body Women Circle? It’s a group support for women who want to increase the confidence in their body, and learn to enjoy eating again, without guilt.

Click here if you’d like to find out more!

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Written by Donatella Porceddu

I am a registered psychologist and life coach specialised in binge and emotional eating, body kindness, and mindful eating. I empower women to become the best version of themselves through my comprehensive approach, which combines personal coaching and psychology, leveraging my client’s strengths and building around their opportunities.

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Donatella Porceddu Psychologist & Eating Coach specialised in Binge Eating, Overeating, Emotional Eating, Food freedom, anti-diet approach. 1:1 support through my Make Peace with Food program.

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