Breaking the stigma about food binges and overeating
You might be afraid that if you tell someone the depths of your food binges, the overeating and the lack of control , it’ll be too much to handle.
I understand you fear of feeling exposed, vulnerable and raw. Just as much as much as I know what is like to feel sluggish, unhappy, and unmotivated.
After all, I lived in that same space, on and off many times in the past. Feeling miserable, discouraged, guilty. Pretending everything was just fine in front of everyone even if I was screaming inside.
Eating food in secret, and hiding any proof of that.
It seemed impossible to do something about it. To stop overeating all the time.
Then there’s the lure of miraculous diets and the disappointment of realizing they can’t be the answer.
Because this type of hunger doesn’t come from the stomach. It comes from the heart. And it can’t be satisfied with food.
Ending the struggle with food binges and overeating
The process of breaking free from bingeing and overeating is very personal.
It’s because each of us is dealing with different problems.
Even if those problems find their way to express out to the world in similar ways, in the way we eat and take care (or not) of ourselves and our body.
For this reason, it’s very important for me to ask my clients to tell me about their story.
This helps find common threads and moments of disruption, when something changed the course of events. And perhaps their approach to food and the start of food binges too.
Often, you can find the keys to change, and from there the client can really start changing and moving on.
There’s a lot you can do to stop the food binges and the overeating.
I don’t want you to think that the way you’ve always done things can’t be changed. There are solutions awaiting for you.
Making this your n. 1 priority right now and finding the right person to guide you through the healing process is fundamental.
“If you’re not OK with yourself at 185 pounds, you will not be OK at 150, or even at 135. The self- respect and peace of mind you long for is not out there. It’s within.” – Ann Lamott
My journey from food binges and overeating to food and body freedom
Where the struggle started
Ever felt you are not worthy of love, friendship, a career achievement because of what your body looks like?
I did for many years, when I believed that weight was the measure of my worth.
As a young girl and later in my teenage, I’ve experienced the stigma for being in the higher range of the scale.
I’ve always loved dancing. When I joined the dance classes at the age of 5, I discovered how good it is to move your body to music.
It’s still like these today!
At the same time, it was difficult to understand why the teacher always paid attention to the girls that looked prettier (read, slim and harmonious in their movemen)t. So, I’d often bear a grudge or sob in bed at night.
When I was in my teen age, at school, I’d be often called various names for being overweight. I ended up dropping the dance classes. Again sobbing in bed at night.
That’s how I slowly developed the belief that I could only be worth of attention, love and self-expression if the number on my scale would dramatically drop and my body shape change.
Food binges & Diet Cycling
I ended up internalizing all those early life experiences and believing that everything I was told about my body was absolute truth and represented 100% who I was.
Those limiting beliefs accompanied me for many years, bringing me to find comfort in food binges. Then, I’d try every diet and workout in the attempt to make up for the extra weight coming from those binges.
Ultimately, I wanted to escape this body of mine, always blaming it, not loving it.
Sometimes I’d think it was due to my genes, being angry at what nature gave me. Or I’d go mad at my circumstances, in an infinite cycle of beating myself up.
My weight went up and down so many times that I’m still stunned at what my body was able to endure.
I felt deep shame for what was going on. For the binges behind closed doors, the excuses made not to face social situations in fear of what would people think about my body.
It was hard to see clearly what was pushing me to eat with such urgency. In hindsight, I always thought the problem was food, the portions, the calories. For me dieting was the only answer. If one diet failed, there was always another one to try.
Finding food & body freedom
I was already in my 30s when I decided I had enough of living this way and I accepted I had a problem.
That number on the scale started to lose its power on me and I’ve accepted my body for the miracle it is.
Embracing whatever it’s causing the hurt it’s a step toward healing.
Believe me, it’s possible to stop bingeing… and to accept your body!
There is only one person who is truly invested in the journey out of food binges and overeating: YOU
This is something I learnt through my own lived experience.
That time you spend worrying about food or what people will think about you it’s time you can never get back.
In fact, it’s time you could spend doing the things you like and just living your life.
- If you stopped listening to whatever comment someone else makes on your body or your abilities, what would you start doing?
- Imagine you stopped that inner voice inside telling you to food binge and overeat. What would you be capable of doing?